USING VOCABULARY THAT CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
You have probably heard someone say: ‘we are doing fine under the circumstances’ I have always imagined that this was just another way of saying ‘we are doing just fine thanks’ until one day I began to think deeply about these folks who somehow manage to make it even under those whatever circumstances they’re talking about. Then one day it happened to Joyce and I, like all couples we began to have disagreements and misunderstandings on certain issues and I had a better understanding of what doing fine under the circumstances meant.
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What Does 'Love' mean?
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does 'love' mean?' The answers they got ere broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think........
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DEALING WITH SOUL TIES IN MARRIAGE - PART 2
One thing that I wish to highlight today is that there is not a single totally trouble free marriage. The best marriages are those that are running on frequent compromise, forgiveness, and an occasional “letting the other get away with murder” attitude. I consider my marriage to be amongst the world’s best but the truth is if Joyce and I would really want to get at each other’s throats we’d do so on a daily basis simply because there is always something that we have to contest about in our marriage. I have mentioned earlier in one of my previous articles on the same subject about the importance of compromise in marriage. Marriage cannot be operated as an aeroplane with a checklist on hand and making sure that all the pressure gauges are one hundred percent full before we can take off. Also remember that the Bible says that love covers a multitude of sins. By this I hope that I‘m not also promoting abuse of grace that we receive from each other. Joyce and I are very serious about our relationship and we never take each other for granted or despise the mercy that each receives from the other, but then as I have mentioned there are those times when we both feel that we have forgiven the other more than we have offended them. And it is during such times when one wishes they had an outsider to come a judge the case. But we refuse to let ourselves go that route because we are still much capable of ‘self repairing’.
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Today's articles is aimed at giving direction to those not already married. Simply because all that I will be saying in this article will be focusing more on offering preventative measures than giving curative ones. I wish to continue on the seriousness of compatibility or the lack thereof in relationships. In our previous articles I have touched on the subject of Principles and Preferences and how Joyce and I are able to live peacefully around them. This is simply so because we have realized that we are different in many ways than one. I also need to emphasize that two people can only agree or disagree to the extent they agree to do so. Without having common ground around these issues always becomes a bone of contention. Also be aware that agreeing or disagreeing will also be determined by the level of their maturity. It is also important to note that maturity has absolutely nothing to do with one's age.
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We lived peacefully for the remaining part of our lives and tried to shake off all the troubles we had gone through. It seemed like my father had somehow evaporated, we never saw him or heard from him until I was 25. This was 12 years after. I met Joyce in 1980 and within 2 years we were customarily married. We stayed with my mother at home. In 1984 we had a celebration which our families really wanted us to have. All the happenings of that day were very special to both Joyce and I as we celebrated with our families and friends, everything just went well and we were excited.

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We ultimately reached our eldest sister's place three kilometers away at around five or so. Our journey from our home to there was the longest I have traveled so far in my life. The longest in the sense that I was only 11, afraid and full of questions as to why was all these were happening to us. What happened to our family? or was is it all a bad dream that I would wake up from. All these questions shot through my mind like bullets from a machine gun and none of them hit the target anyway instead they left me as blank as a they found me. The next thing I vividly remember asking again and again in my head was; was there really a God out there? I used to hear my parents talking about God in our home and my dad was himself a preacher, and we used to have Church at our home ever Sunday. At that time I must confess that I doubted the existence of God simply because I kept asking questions and for some reasons only known to him, He never felt obliged to reply. On reaching our sisters place we did not even know how to explain our sudden unexpected arrival, moreover in this bad weather.

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It took a number of months before our church income began to improve. And I must confess that money was the last thing on my mind at that point. I realized that I needed more cash than our Church was generating in order to survive. I mean here I was doing well on a fourteenth of my original income. Remember that before the job I quit was paying me R7500 per month, and here I was now earning R500. So I figured out that even if our Church made R5000 per month it was not going to change my situation at all. I hope you get my point of view. If you cannot learn from your trials or challenges then you are most likely never to learn from any other source around you.
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A person never realizes how much they were actually injured until that old sore, so to speak is touched even by the slightest of objects. I truly believe that I had forgiven my father, and yes I did but I only realized yesterday that I grew up not knowing how to be a father to children. I believe that these things are not part of the general information that one can get from around them, they are not "caught" as the saying goes but they are taught. As a kid I grew up hating my father and I had too many reasons to justify it, and the things I detested him for according to my judgement back then were deserving of a very slow and painful death, but since that was not possible I found that hating him would do just fine. I wanted to grow up and be someone he would admire but never identify with in any way, and this is still the case with many kids who were given a raw deal by their fathers.
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