|MVK & Joyce Kotu|
I have been married to the same woman for 28 years and I have never felt so complete in my life. Marriage happens but living together is a skill that can be learnt though talking to others and attending marriage enrichment seminars and workshops. Being happily married and living happily ever after is not easily acquired as one man of God said it's 'blood sweat and tears' It never just happens we have to put a lot of hours learning the necessary skills and asking for the 'paths of old' from those who have been there before. I will be speaking to couples, both married and those engaged to be married. The meeting will take place on Sunday 22 August 2010. The meeting will be held at Reach Out For Christ Ministries in Chiawelo Ext. 3 Soweto.We will start at 3 in the afternoon. and admission is free. For further Enquiries please contact the ministry office at 011 980-5970 or Pastor. Billy Maluleke on 0837220815. alternatively you may leave a response below indicating your attendance. See you there. MVK For Directions Click Here
COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE
In our previous article I tried to highlight the importance of compatibility in the Spiritual realm. And please be aware that my opinions on these issues remain open to criticism. When I began sharing on this subject I made it clear that I am not a marriage counsellor and that I will be approaching the subject from a marriage partner's point of view. I have been married to the same woman for 28 years and not once did we need to go for marriage counselling and neither did we get any pre marital counselling. The principles that I’m sharing here with you are our own self made ethics that we made up after reaching a few “cul de sacs” in our relationship. I might be wrong but it has worked for us for the past 28 years. Secondly I also wish to indicate that we did not keep these philosophies under wraps but we put them to the test by asking other couples younger than ourselves to try them and they yielded the same results.
I have a young couple in our Church that I married about 10 years ago, I asked them to try the same principles in their marriage and they have never been to a marriage counsellor for the past 10 years. Neither did they have any problem that needed an outsider to intervene; somehow they were able to handle with success whatever issues they had. So I am just saying try them; if they work great and if they don’t praise God that we have a lot of powerful help out there, go and talk to someone. But then I must also say that make sure that you receive counselling from people who are on the same Spiritual wavelength as you are. Well, let’s get into the next point. In the last article I mentioned that man is a three part being. Namely: Spirit, Soul and Body and that the most superior or the engine of the three is the Spirit. This is what the bible refers to as the heart. It would be worthwhile also to consider the following scripture Proverbs 4:20 ‘keep your heart with all diligence for out of it spring the issues of life’. The Spirit or the heart is where matters of life and death; success and failure are established and decided and that is why it’s important to not only be of the same mind but to be of the same heart as well.
Every time I watch a game between let’s say Kaizer chiefs and Orlando Pirates I always get amazed at how all these three individuals act and react to whatever happens during and after the match. The soccer bosses sit there as if nothing is happening; the players are there showing their skill and the fans would be the ones getting emotionally involved even up to the point of wanting to make decisions forgetting that to the team boss this is business and to the player it’s a career but to them it’s a hobby. Now there are other fans, who know where to draw the line, but the majority don’t and these two are divided by the level of their intelligence. The reason I will not paint my house in the colours of any soccer team is because I know where to draw the line.