tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post5289910289768150267..comments2024-02-27T10:34:32.981+02:00Comments on MVK zone: Inspirational - Motivational - Educational: Why I Think Some Marriages Fail Despite All Good Efforts To make Them Work - Part 17Montoedi Kotuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06123636511732876129noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-78529347935128583362010-07-08T09:23:14.830+02:002010-07-08T09:23:14.830+02:00LOL Sipho. But as long as you know and understand ...LOL Sipho. But as long as you know and understand your wife.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02788413166656097405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-43800949919072387772010-07-07T15:16:35.114+02:002010-07-07T15:16:35.114+02:00I agree with anon. Silence sometimes gives you tha...I agree with anon. Silence sometimes gives you that time to actually realize that your fight or arguement can be fixed or even it wasnt that bad to begin with. Misinterpretaion of what you said in a fight can make both of you regret even having the covesation in the fisrt place.<br />And as Sipho said things should be finalised before going to bed. Same as BM that 1 arguement should not determine your whole day.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02788413166656097405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-2678906150615519502010-07-07T14:56:55.560+02:002010-07-07T14:56:55.560+02:00Bongikosi, you sure have an understanding wife. If...Bongikosi, you sure have an understanding wife. If I offer my wife something to drink while she is angry, she will not accept. My wife is the type of person who does not appreciate people asking if she would love to have something. If you are making tea/coffee, you must make her one as well without asking. I have come to learn myself how good that is.Siphonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-27594646961964655162010-07-07T12:43:23.568+02:002010-07-07T12:43:23.568+02:00Silent communication sometimes is helpful because ...Silent communication sometimes is helpful because if you try to speak when you are having a disagreement, you might end up saying things that you should not. When you are silent, you are able to communicate with yourself within and sometimes realize that whatever you are not agreeing on can be solved in a different way and that is where compromise comes in. If you manage to overcome that you and your partner might even begin to understand each other better. As the saying goes ' You are never too old to learn' and we learn everyday.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-44950873366856239052010-07-07T10:13:20.127+02:002010-07-07T10:13:20.127+02:00Your observations are on point. One of the good wa...Your observations are on point. One of the good ways to of keeping a good communication line, is to give each other space. I keep my Friday's for band practice and Saturday for choir. My wife in turn can enjoy time with friends. When things get bad, I always make sure they are fix before we go to bed. Nothing is as bad as sleeping next to a person who is quiet!Siphonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84409021022543080.post-66256164568893703952010-07-07T10:00:31.290+02:002010-07-07T10:00:31.290+02:00This proves to me that the chemistries of relation...This proves to me that the chemistries of relationships are universal, the choice of which chemicals to mix to remedy the situation remains with those in the relationship. I have a friend who is a Swidish old man. He once said to me, there are times in a relationship where u just need to be nice against the the odds (paraphrased). I have learnt to understand that 1 disagreement can not dertermine our entire day, as a result even after a disagreement I still ask her if her car has patrol or if she would like to have a cup of coffe when am making one for myself. I have realised that there are 3love opportunities presented to couples. Love as a husband/wife or the cupid love. Love as a neighbour, so if I'm mad at her I think to myself, if she was my neighbour siting with me would I offer her a cup of coffee? Yes I would, the I offer her. Love as an enemy (if it gets that far) which is a command from God that we need to love even our enemies to a point that we can offer them something to drink. A lot of the time the intensity of the problem is dependent on the actions taken after the disagreement. if they are repulsive then the problem grows bigger however if the actions are loving then it presents a plartform for negotiation. BMBonginkosi Mzilahttp://bongi@empoweryst.co.zanoreply@blogger.com